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Women’s Great Weakness: Reactive (Fear Based) Thinking

Deeper Insights, Fiat Lux

I’m a woman, so as I guess I’m allowed to write about women without a negative bias being perceived. So what is women’s great weakness?

An inability (or at least difficulty) to confidently think for ourselves and defend our position.

What do I mean? I want to frame this by showing how a woman was influenced by evil intent in a way that caused loss and suffering to millions upon millions of humans – to all of us, in fact.

The serpent told Eve she was missing out on something. There was this great thing she hadn’t experienced. Why hadn’t she experienced it? Because GOD was trying to rip her off, of course. The serpent made Eve believe that GOD lied to Eve; she would not die if she ate the forbidden fruit. GOD only told her she would die because He wanted her to miss this great experience.

I could go in a lot of directions here. I could write about what the fruit was, what it represented, and on and on. But that would detract from my point…

…Which is: women have a weakness in our thinking that lets us more easily be manipulated. People can tell us we are wrong about something, and we doubt ourselves.

Now, women can dig in and be just as stubborn as the next guy. But we have some sort of deep impulse to question our decision making process: have we made an error? Have we believed something faulty?

That can be a valid question, if our source of information is bad. But Eve’s wasn’t.

Women have a natural desire to move in the collective. This facilitates nurturing and even healing.

This means that women tend to be reactive – willing to have our ideas altered – whereas men tend to be proactive, developing their ideas and opinions through thought processes in which they are more confident, generally, than women are in our ideas and opinions. We will surrender our thought processes to a persuasive hawker.

All the beautiful, sparkly women at the Golden Globes love Oprah, so we should love Oprah. Donald Trump is aggressive in pursuing his goals, and many women feel threatened by him, therefore he is scary.

Can you grasp the concept I am presenting?

We women sometimes, through a lack of confidence in our own ability to process information and a desire to be a part of the group, are willing to conform to group think, discounting and then surrendering our own ideas and opinions – and often silencing the cries of our best and most accurate guide: our intuition.

Didn’t the hair on the back of Eve’s neck stand up when the serpent talked to her? Why didn’t she yield to her own warning system and walk away?

I’m not judging Eve. The serpent was very subtle and crafty; you know, like Oprah (I don’t want to make this about Oprah; I don’t really think she is going to become politically more significant); he was ostensibly offering Eve a better life. But she got fooled into dooming her offspring to a darker, poorer, lesser life – in effect, death.

GOD doesn’t lie. Eve should have known that. She should have known that by experience. She should have known that by context. She should have known that by arriving, with accurate information, at a true conclusion. But she doubted her conclusion. She doubted her thought processes. She wanted the serpent to think she was smart and sophisticated. She wanted more Facebook likes.

Why is this especially relevant now? The obvious concern is women with public profiles who try to shame the rest of us into accepting their view of President Trump. But more subtle (you know, like the serpent) is the pressure of women to accept or reject certain voices (Alex Jones, QAnon, and many others) based on what other women say or believe about them.

We can ask for facts! Yes, we love our intuition, we love our friend’s intuition, we trust so-and-so on Twitter: NOT GOOD ENOUGH! People spend years upon years building reputations so somewhere down the road they may be able to mislead us. That doesn’t mean we have to be suspicious all the time about everything and everybody.

But, hey, ladies, it’s OK to ask for facts to back up opinions. It’s OK to do your own research and trust your own findings (provided you dig ‘way further than Snopes). Those who seek find. You can find truth!

And when you find truth, let it be a foundation for how you live, and, without apology, live according to your own vision.


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